Donating from the heart.

Alyssa is on a roll these days with her kindness and love. She has done so many amazing things, Gifts for the local Police, Gifts for the local Fireman, Dog treats for the local K9 Dogs. and starting her own Dog biscuit business so she can donate the proceeds to charities and K9 units.

Last night she added one more to the list of good deeds.. She helped “Feed my Starving Children“.  She was very excited and really enjoyed what she did. While we started off a little rocky, (so much going on in the big room and so many people) she did pull it together and helped all that she could. She had a blast.

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I think giving her this opportunity to help other and to do work to get a result that she can see is amazing. Here is what we did in such a short time helping.

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If you are interested in helping, I say do it. Get in contact with “Feed my Starving Children” and donate your time to help children across the world. Its worth it in the end and it just makes you feel so good after.

Good deeds never go unnoticed!

A few weeks ago Alyssa made some gifts for our local police. She did it just because, just because she wanted to and just because she wanted new friends. When she did that she didn’t realized (nor did we) that it would touch so many hearts and make  these very important people and new friends so incredibly happy. She didn’t do it to gain anything more then friends and to do something for someone else. (Read about it here)

This morning while completing our daily routine, and waiting patiently for the Special Ed but to arrive and pick Alyssa up, we got a visit. We got a visit from those amazing men and woman who protect us and take care of out city, and who are now her NEW FRIENDS.

Alyssa's new friends.

While the visit was really all she ever needs to feel good and to have a fantastic day, it just wasn’t enough for the officers. They contacted me last week and explained to me that Alyssa really touched their hearts and their families hearts. That they in return wanted to do something special for Alyssa. They wanted her to feel as special as they felt when they all got their gifts from her.

Today they brought her, their gifts. These officers and many more from our community pitched in and got Alyssa a great big basket full of fun.  Gifts to bring out more of her creative side, Tons of Arts and Crafts, and a few other fun things .

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These men and woman have touched Alyssa just as much as Alyssa has touched them. As I see it, Good deeds never go unnoticed, God sees everything you do and all the good that comes with the wonderful meaningful things in life, When you do good things, you will feel it come back to you in one way or another. With Alyssa she has gained so much, She is building confidence, friendships, thoughtfulness, love, and much much more.

For many children with Autism, communication is difficult with Police officers, Things weren’t so easy with Alyssa and he perception of stranger in general, add a uniform to that and it was even more difficult, I think showing her how good Police officers, Firemen and Military personnel are has helped set a good path for Alyssa in this situation,  Talk to your kids, talk about good examples and good things that police in your community do, Show your children. Take them to meet Police officers so that your child with Autism is aware of the need for them in their life, So that if they ever need help they know they don’t need to be afraid or that they can get help from these amazing people.

You can get a card for verbal and nonverbal Autistic children and adults HERE! Alyssa has one that she carries when we are out because she can get lost in an instant and before making all her new friends she wouldn’t have stopped to speak to officers to get help. The card is great and will let the other person know “I have Autism” It gives great information about your loved one and even a mood sensor to let the officer know if you are upset, scares, happy. Its FREE and worth it.

Veterans Day

Today is Veterans day, Today we remember the men and woman who have pledged to fight for our country and protect. Today Alyssa and the rest of the family will visit a very important man.

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This year our family’s grandfather passed away. He passed on St. Patrick’s day and was laid to rest on April 1st 2015 in a national cemetery. George was a huge part of Alyssa’s life, he was there since day one, He lived with us and helped care for Alyssa. He didn’t have to he wanted to. They were two peas in a pod, He meant the world to her and still does to this day.

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Alyssa thinks about George every day of her life, she prays at the table for him to have a great day in heaven, She has taken over his old room and while she does have her stuff on the walls, her bedroom set and all her dolls, what she doesn’t let anyone touch or move is his wall of pictures, the paint color and his walking stick. All of those things must stay where they are until she is ready. They had a special bond that no one could crack and they still do to this day.

What some people do not know is that George has a remarkable effect on my oldest daughter as well. Olivia talked to George a lot, She also grew up the last 6 years of her life with this amazing man living in our home. I remember the day she enlisted in the Army National Guard. He cried and he thanked her and he was so incredibly proud. When she went to basic training for 3 months, he cried and talked about her all the time. When she went to AIT training for 4 months he wrote her and asked if she had called, How was she. and again cried because he was so proud. Olivia made an impact on him as he did to her.

I want to say thank you to these two amazing people. Thank you for being such loving people in our lives but also for taking that oath to protect and honor our country. I love you both!

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Sensory weight

Autism’s symptoms often include difficulty processing sensory information such as textures, sounds, smells, tastes, brightness and movement. Alyssa is effected by sensory issues almost daily.

We find that she is actually sensory seeking which can be a good thing as most children with Autism shy away from sensory things such as blinking lights and loud sounds. Alyssa seeks theses things. At times loud sounds to however effect her and she doesn’t like them. We have also found that low sounds that we do not normally hear or low sounds we can ignore, she can not and doesn’t like.

Alyssa has a way of touching soft things to her lip and rubbing back and forth as a way to calm herself and she has a way of touching peoples hair and seeing the different textures. Alyssa loves roller coasters and the thrill she gets from it but she does not like to be in crowded areas surrounded by strangers she doesn’t know or she may not understand. There are so many things that effect children with Autism, and we deal with different things on a daily basis.

One of the things that we find at our home that helps to calm and “get the wiggles out” is her weighted blanket. She has a lap blanket that weighs roughly 3 lbs. We will find her sitting with this lap blanket over her legs and that is when she is in her own world again. She can sit for hours this way and I might add I do not mind when I have things to get done around the house.

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She also has a “chewy” item made for just for chewing on. this Chewy hangs from her neck and goes everywhere with her, she can shew on it and it doesn’t get destroyed.

So if you are looking for items to help your sensory child, these are a few of the things that work for our Alyssa!

We shop at The Autism Shop where we find many wonderful things that help her. You can get fidgets, swings, weighted blankets, books, and more. They have been amazing in helping us and they allow you to come into the store and test out several of the items they have. You can even order online if you are not local!

Discipline book to live by.

INoDrama am a book reader, I love to read for either entertainment or to learn new things in life.

I was told about this book called No-Drama Discipline and how some parents are really liking what they read. A friend of mine then told me that she got the Audible from Amazon for FREE for 30 days and if you got the FREE 30 trial of Audible you could get this book “No-Drama Discipline for FREE as well. So of course I did just that.

I got through this book at work while listening to it and working at the same time, Good news is I got my work done, other good news is I got to get through the entire book in 2 days and learned a TON.

What I like about this book is that it teaches you new ways to get your child to listen… No really I mean LISTEN to you. It gives you ways to get their attention without yelling, lashing out, without using a dark tone in your voice that may not get your child to actually listen, They may hear you at that moment in fear or anger but they are not actually listening, Listening means they are taking in what they hear and they are taking in what is being said and maybe what they listen to will stick and they may just remember what was discussed.

The best thing is that the very beginning of this book explains the KEY element to Disciple.

Discipline means to “Teach”. The root of Discipline is Disciple which means “Student”, “Pupil” and “Learner”. So with Discipline we are teaching our Children who are the students. When you teach you get them to listen. Listening means they will learn from what has happened.

You must also Connect and Redirect.

If you can connect with your child emotionally. “Our relationship with our children should be central to everything we do”. Connection means we give our children the attention, that we respect them enough to listen to them, that we value their contribution to solving the problem, and that we communicate to them that we’re on their side, whether we like the way they are acting or not.

Once we’ve connected with our children and helped them calm down so they can hear us and fully understand what we are saying, we can then redirect them toward more appropriate behaviors and help them see a better way to handle themselves.

Consequences and lessons are ineffective as long as a child is upset and unable to hear the lessons you are offering.

This book does teach us so much more, but I feel for my ASD and ADHD children these are the KEY elements of this book.  Check it out and see how you feel or even if you learn something new to try with your kids. I give it two thumbs up!

Alyssa’s K9 Kitchen

Well,  my little angel has been at it again. After giving the local police in our area gifts “just because”, she has decided that she wants to go into business!

She spoke with her grandmother, a small business owner, and asked her for advise. She wanted to know:
1) is her idea a good one?
2) what should she name it?
3) how to start?
Her grandmother approved and thought it was a wonderful idea and let her know that once she sets her mind to it, she can make it happen. So she did just that.

Her new business adventure is to make home made dog biscuits to sell. She doesn’t want the money for herself, she wants to donate all the money from selling the biscuits to local K9 units around the area. She said the dogs sometimes don’t get what they should so she is going to help that happen.
So again, it was my job to head over to Pinterest and find some dog biscuit ideas. We found one she can make herself, so we just went for it. Alyssa is able to do everything all by herself and that makes these treats even better.

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Once she tried her first batch of dog biscuits she was even more excited as you can see.
We even asked our local vet if the Ingredients were safe and got full approval from them to move forward!

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The hard part was picking a name for her business. She sat at the table and came up with 3 names she liked, but still couldn’t choose. So we took it to Facebook and asked all of our friends to help pick the name…

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And the WINNER is…………………………. #1, Alyssa’s K9 Kitchen

After that we sat together and came up with label ideas. She picked packaging and the colors and got a finished product. Obviously dog approved!

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Now I have a feeling we will be making quit a few of these and walking the neighborhoods this weekend!